Book Review

An End of Summer Read

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I wanted to give away one more summer inspired read! (Who can believe summer has drifted by again?)

Colleen Coble is a best-selling author of romantic mysteries.

Visit her website here.

 

I confess, I’m not a mystery girl. I read the end of the book before I finish more cases than not! I know it’s terrible. I know many of you love mysteries especially if there is a love story within the suspense. If that’s the case, you will love Rosemary Cottage. In my book giveaways, I am trying to find book genres for everyone!

The story takes place on North Carolina’s Outer Banks at Hope Beach Cottage. Reading the book is like taking a mini vacation to the shore. Amy Lang is a mid-wife and a surfer. She’s also mourning the death of her brother, Ben. His disappearance at sea during a surfing outing has left questions in her mind.

Down the beach lives Cost Guard Officer Curtis Ireland. He too is mourning the lose of his sister and single Mom, Gina, killed in a boating accident. Curtis now cares for his niece, Raine, left behind.

Together, they join forces to solve the mystery of their siblings deaths. Only to find there is much more to the story.

 

I loved the setting of the cottage beach house and the quaint town. Amy had a place of solace to return too when things were hard, we can all ask ourselves if we too have a place like that in our lives. There are some strong supporting characters, surfing Aunt Edith and misguided, young Heather. The story takes a number of surprising twists and turns. I’d be interested if anyone else figures out the mystery before the end. I like to be positive on my reviews, but I did find this one to be a little far-fetched. Still, quite entertaining and fast-paced. I enjoyed it enough to be interested in reading her other books.

There is a great reading group guide in the end and I love how it draws you more deeply into the story. Here is great questions to think about:

Have you ever kept something to yourself because it was too painful to talk about? This book at its core is about deception, secrets, and forgiveness. These are topics that are powerful to think about in our every day lives and face head on.

 

Leave a comment and take one last summer beach trip to Hope Island! I’ll be giving away one copy of the book. 

Amy, as a midwife, was a healer in her work and her heart. Do you know someone like this in your life?

{This review is part of BookSneeze: where I give an honest review in exchange for a book to give away to you!}

Here are some of her other titles.

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The Secrets of Happy Families

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A Guest Post by Shannon Jammal-Hollemans

Book Review: The Secrets of Happy Families by Bruce Feiler

It was a sunny, summer evening. With my family gathered around the dinner table, and our youngest off at the home of a friend, it was the perfect opportunity to talk about sex with my middle school-aged kids. The catalyst for this conversation was a chapter in Bruce Feiler’s latest book, The Secrets of Happy Families, entitled “Lessons from the Sex Mom.”

A colleague recently recommended that I read a piece by Bruce Feiler in the New York Times. The essay, I discovered, serves as a brief introduction to the larger topic addressed in Feiler’s latest book, The Secrets of Happy Families. I was so captured by the essay that I looked into the book. When browsing the chapter titles, and seeing “Lessons from the Sex Mom”, I knew this was a book for me.

 

I am generally leery of “best practices” type of self-help books. Life is always more complex. But Feiler’s book, while based on a “best practices” model, offers more. Gathering ideas from a variety of practitioners, backing them with statistics, and pairing them with stories from families, Feiler offers practical wisdom for addressing life’s complexities. With humor and humility, he addresses subjects from talking to kids about sex to branding your family with a mission statement.

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Feiler identifies concrete examples of activities that contribute to a family’s flourishing—intergenerational collaboration, consensus model decision making, the celebration of milestones, and making time to regularly check in with one another. He avoids, and even repudiates, recommendations that only serve to put pressure on families, like the expectation that families eat dinner together every night. Feiler asks, why not breakfast?

Avoiding the “shoulds” that often bog parents down and pile on guilt for what we are failing to do, Feiler’s book is refreshingly genuine and helpful. In the introduction, Feiler claims that what sets this book apart is the fact that he does not refer to the same psychological studies and data that similar books rely upon. Yet while he does avoid these for the most part, the book is solidly rooted in good psychology, and to its benefit.

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At its heart, the book is about adaptability and good communication. Happy families—like successful businesses, teams, and military units—are firmly rooted yet open to change, closely knit yet free to adapt.  To learn about crafting a family vacation, Feiler talked to the pioneers of the game FarmVille. His takeaways from that conversation were that happy family vacations—like successful games—have clear goals, set rules, opportunities for feedback, and voluntary participation. Many of Feiler’s conclusions about happy families are similar.

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The book has its faults. At times it can reek of North American individualism, but like talking to my kids about sex, The Secrets of Happy Families has served as a catalyst for me to initiate a few changes in my family. What better time than summer break? We are going to craft a mission statement. I am going to use the criteria of the FarmVille folks as checklist for planning our next vacation. I have even gotten a few takeaways that will apply to my work.

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But the real gift that I am taking away from Feiler’s book is the reminder that families, like all closely-knit relationships, need work to succeed. It doesn’t just happen. If the cycles of bad relationships are going to be broken, we need to be intentional. We need to talk about our issues. And we need to be open to implement change, to make mistakes, and to adapt again.

shannonShannon Jammal-Hollemans is a recent graduate of Calvin Theological Seminary in Grand Rapids, Michigan, and works as a project developer for the Christian Reformed Church in North America.

Though My Heart is Torn, Joanne Bischof

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Be Still My Soul was the first book in the Cadence of Grace Series by Joanne Bischof. We had the privilege of having Joanne visit About Proximity when the first novel released. The second in the series is called My Heart is Torn. The last in the trilogy, My Hope is Found will release in October 2013.

Be Still My Soul was a beautiful love story with unique elements. Lonnie and Gideon were forced into a hasty marriage. Through the pages of the story their relationship struggled and grew as Gideon became the man God intended him to be and Lonnie believed he could be. The sweet unfolding of a realistic relationship made the story memorable.

 

In Though My Heart is Torn, Gideon’s past comes back to haunt them.

Gideon O’Riley has two wives-but he doesn’t know it.

Every page of this story was heartbreaking; to see love torn apart, haunting past mistakes and a fledgling faith.

I don’t want to reveal to much of the story line, but I absolutely can’t wait to read the last book of the trilogy. This story, I read in two days, which means double thumbs up. Lonnie’s strength to move forward as a single Mom and trust in a bigger plan is a beautiful example, yet she shows her vulnerability and pain honestly. Gideon’s desire to be worthy of all God has called him to be inspires. You can feel his struggle reverberate through his physical being. New characters add an extra layer of faith journey to the story line.

 

The story also asks an important question:

How do our choices affect others and in response how God’s grace always has the power to redeem.

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You can follow Joanne Bischof’s blog here, also on facebook and twitter

Read the first chapter here.

joanne-bishofMarried to her first sweetheart, Joanne Bischof lives in the mountains of Southern California where she keeps busy making messes with their home-schooled children. When she’s not weaving Appalachian romance, she’s blogging about faith, writing, and the adventures of country living that bring her stories to life.

 

 

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From the study guide:

Can you think of a time when you relied on God’s grace to resolve an issue?

{I received this book for free from WaterBrook Multnomah Publishing Group for this review.}

Manhood

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John Croyle, founder of Big Oak Ranch in Alabama, leads Dad’s through steps to help their sons reach authentic manhood.

Croyle was a All-American defensive end at the University of Alabama. He choose to forego professional football and established Big Oak Ranch, a place where he desired for children to have a chance. The ranch has grown to a boys ranch, girls ranch and a Christian school. All proceeds from the book go directly to the children. 1,800 abused and neglected children have lived and been given hope at the ranch.

 

I think this book is an important read because it is heartfelt, geared to Dad’s and incredibly practical. What guy doesn’t like practical advice laid out from the basis of football plays. Also, John Croyle’s voice is centered in his years of experience raising his own children and guiding the children of the ranch. The last chapter of the book includes an interview with Croyle’s now grown children Brodie and Reagan.

The book includes his history and also stories from the ranch. I especially love his focus on being an example to the boys that come to the ranch and also the teaching of strong work ethic. I don’t think you can underestimate the importance of a Dad in the life of a child and if that is not possible family members, friends and mentors that can stand in that gap.

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Other highlights:

  • The practical lists of action to do to become stronger in our parenting roles.
  • The ways in which we compromise all that we could be as parents.
  • The analogy that you are preparing your child to become an adult and the teamwork that takes.
  • The encouragement to never, ever give up.

As long as you and your boy are still breathing, you need to know it’s not too late.

 

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What do you love about the role Dad’s play in children’s lives? 

Bread and Wine

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Bread and Wine a Love Letter to Life around the Table with Recipes.  By: Shauna Niequist

I wanted to give this book away, but honestly was intimidated to read it.

 

I would not describe myself as a foodie, maybe a burn the food person. I do like food though, does that count? In the locker room at the Aquatic Center I saw a brown loofah and thought it was a bag of tortilla chips last week. Sometimes I slap down fish sticks a’la Betty Draper of Mad Men for dinner, I really do. What I’m saying is I loved this book, even though I am not a foodie purist.

In this book each chapter is an essay ending with a recipe. Shauna invites us to her own table of her childhood and her present, a table shared by family and friends. Reading the book feels like being offered a warm invitation into the home of a life-long friend. As a writer her words speak wisdom and humor. She possesses the gift of hospitality and offers it up freely to her readers.

 

She shares transparently her own struggle with infertility and how around the table friends uphold one another.

But it isn’t about perfection, and it isn’t about performance. You’ll miss the richest moments in life- the sacred moments when we feel God’s grace and presence through the actual faces and hands of the people we love- if you’re too scared or too ashamed to open the door.

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Every time we eat and drink should be a reminder that:
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I shut this book and am changed.

To: appreciate each meal as a gift from God’s hand.

To: be encouraged to open my door and feed those I love.

To: archive memories of gathering together when the days are hard.

To: slow down.

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what is your favorite meal to fix when you have company? 

Unfinished

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Richard Stearns, President of World Vision has a new book called Unfinished Believing is only the Beginning. 

About Proximity was given a hard cover copy to review and giveaway!

Stearns first book was the National Bestseller The Hole in our Gospel. In that book he spoke about his journey from CEO of Parker Brothers Games and Lenox, Inc to World Vision.

 

In Unfinished, Stearns writes about our Biblical mission to proclaim God’s truths and act on his life-changing love.

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The book lacked the deep story telling Stearns included in his first book. He spent much of the chapters giving overview to the bigger story found in the Bible. I still enjoyed the book and its message very much. The stories he tells of his work with World Vision and other people’s acts of love are the strongest parts of the book.

One story stands out against the backdrop of the book for me. He told of how tourists vacationing at Haiti ocean resort locations are placed on buses with blacked out windows when they arrive at the airport. Then, they are transported to their destination. The windows are blacked out so they do not see the abject poverty they are passing by on the way to their resort.

 

The work is unfinished.

How often when we are not in direct proximity to suffering, do we black out what we see.

We were made for so much more.

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You have a critical role to play.

We need to cast off our inward, secure, isolated lives and look outward.

The book has a great study guide and an act,pray, influence and give guide.

 

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Are you ever tempted to black out what you know? What do you think when you read the words we were made for so much more?

A Dream So Big

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A Dream So Big: Our Unlikely Journey to End the Tears of Hunger

This is the story of the Peifer Family.

Steve Peifer was a manager of a corporate giant. He and his wife Nancy had two sons and lived in Dallas, Texas.

In 1997, their unborn son was said to have trisomy 13 and his condition to be “incompatible with life.” They were advised to abort the baby. They did not listen to that advice and loved their son for the eight days they were given with him.

The loss was deep and their family left for a 12-month assignment as dorm parents in a Kenyan boarding school. 12 months turned into a lifetime of service. Steve now serves as Director of College Guidance at Rift Valley Academy.

Their family established a rural food program that feeds 20,000 school children lunch. They also developed the first solar-powered computer training center in Kenya, and are currently developing more labs for schoolchildren.

 

My dear friend Becky Bing went to high school at Rift Valley Academy. I love her stories of being there and appreciate the loving wisdom she gathered while she lived in Kenya. Reading this book was especially exciting to me to learn more about what she experienced. I loved the book and the remarkable story of the Peifer family.

 

Steve is vulnerable and real in his re-telling of their story. The days were not always easy. You will fall in love with the resilient people of Africa and the Peifer’s who refused to give up.

Humor and tears coexist. The perilous driving conditions, baboons in the schoolyard, funny third-culture adolescent boys reside alongside the faces of starving children, magnadoodles delivered to orphanages and the hope computers bring.

Many Kenyan children only eat one meal a day. The Peifer’s do not look away from the suffering they witness and they summon us to have the strength to do the same.

 

The Peifer family also adopted twins, Katie and Ben while in Kenya. Their court appointed date to finalize the adoptions was on May 4, the exact date their son Stephan had passed away. I love how God can redeem the unredeemable. 

He also writes, Stephan was born six years ago today. March 4 used to be such a hard day. But I look at the twins, at the more than eight thousand schoolkids we feed every day, at the amazing life we live now because of his life, and I can see him in almost everything I do, everything I am. 

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What is your dream so big? 

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Kneeling with Giants

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Kneeling with Giants: Learning to Pray with History’s Best Teachers

Kneel is my one word for 2013. I had the opportunity to meet professor and author Gary Neal Hansen through Chad R. Allen’s blog. I was really blessed by his book. I’m so excited to introduce it to you and hear some great insight from Gary.

Reading this book was like taking a whole course in prayer and leaving with your faith inspired and challenged.

His book searches the lives of historical figures and their approach to prayer. I think it’s so easy to get into the habit of prayer being in terrible moments, or when nodding off to sleep. Really, prayer is so much more.

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Gary Neal Hanson shares:  

1. Which form of prayer did you find most helpful in your own spiritual journey?

It is very hard to pick just one as most helpful, since in one way or another all have helped me.  However, when I was about 16 a Young Life leader got me to read Brother Lawrence’s The Practice of the Presence of God, and it shaped me deeply.  This 17th century Carmelite monk developed the discipline of remembering constantly that he was in the presence of God, and that sparked a rich and constant conversation with God inside his heart and mind. As a kid who had just come to a new relationship with Christ this was really helpful, and it laid a foundation for the rest of my prayer life.  Little did I realize Brother Lawrence’s little book was basically an excellent accessible example of the teachings of another Carmelite from a century earlier — St. Teresa of Avila.  There’s a chapter on her in my book.

2. I loved Appendix 2 practical ways to practice each form of prayer. Why do you think prayer can be such a hard form of worship for Christians?

Actually I think it is kind of strange that Christians seem to think prayer should be easy. What in life that really matters, with the potential to remake your life from the ground, up is easy? Marriage? Parenting? Work that you are really called to?  Everything weighty takes a whole lot of effort, and prayer is the most weighty thing of all.

Sometimes we fool ourselves into thinking it ought to be easy by saying it is just talking to someone you love.  But it’s still counter-intuitive: when you are new to praying it can seem like the entire relationship is leaving voicemail messages for someone you’ve never even met. And it is not just talking to anyone we love.  If you’ve ever admired someone famous for years and then met them face to face you were probably tongue-tied.  In prayer we are talking to the creator and ruler of the universe. No wonder it is hard.

3. How did you choose the “giants” that corresponded with each prayer practice?

They were all people I’d met in my own spiritual journey and my work as a church historian. They had written things that helped me pray.  The crucial thing, the thing that ruled out a whole lot of other genuine giants, is this: To be in the book they had to teach or practice a particular way of praying that was different from the others included. They were either the originator of the approach, or famous for it, or a particularly fine example of it. And it had to be a way of praying that other people could try for themselves.

This ruled out a lot of people who had really interesting prayer lives. Take Hildegard von Bingen. One of the most amazing people of the Middle Ages.  She was a benedictine abbess, so she surely spent a great many hours praying the divine office. She’s not a distinctive for that approach. I dealt with the divine office in my chapter on St. Benedict who created benedictine monasticism.  She also had mystical visions, apparently sparked by migraine headaches.  That led to some fascinating writing.  However, I couldn’t say “Step one: Have a migraine headache.  Step two: Have God grant you a vision.”  It can’t be taught or practiced.

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4-up on 2013-05-17 at 13.50Bio: Gary Neal Hansen is the Associate Professor of Church History at the University of Dubuque Theological Seminary.  Much of his research and writing have focused on 16th century Reformed theology, especially John Calvin and the Heidelberg Catechism. He is currently working on a book (and blogging on it regularly) about movements in the history of the church that had creative approaches to community life that led to deepened discipleship and effective participation in mission.  
Find his blog at garynealhansen.com.
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Gods at War

gods at war: defeating the idols that battle for your heart   by Kyle Idelman 

Kyle Idelman wrote the best selling book, Not a Fan. When I had the opportunity to review his newest release gods at war, I was excited to see what all the buzz was about. Idelman is the teaching pastor at Southeast Christian Church in Kentucky. He and his wife DesiRae have four children.

 

Exodus 20:13 You shall have no other Gods before me.

In the Old Testament of the Bible things get a little creepy. People have real idols, like giant graven images.

Maybe, you don’t have a giant golden calf, but idols can take up residence in our hearts in numerous ways.

 

Here are the idols Idelman talks about in his book:

FOOD   SEX  ENTERTAINMENT   SUCCESS

MONEY   ACHIEVEMENT   ROMANCE   FAMILY   ME

Anything that you put before God can become an idol in your life. Yes, I hate to say it, but even junior mints and ice cream.

 

Once an idol takes up reside in your heart, it becomes a substitute for God. 

  • What do you sacrifice for?
  • What makes you mad?
  • What do you worry about?
  • Whose applause do you long for?

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I love this encouragement from the book. We were made for a different world. NOTHING in this world can satisfy that.

We see that many of the gods that battle for our hearts don’t try to lure us with what is obviously wrong or overtly sinful.

 

This book is full of scripture and story. His words challenge. We have to be on guard, because sometimes what lures us can be good things, they are just not the BEST that God has for us.

I love how he wrote about God who loves us so much he is jealous for our hearts.

When we put an idol before God we are choosing something inferior.

 

I will leave you with part of the  poem The Hound of Heaven by Francis Thompson, a Christian poet who struggled with opium addiction.

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Why do we choose what is inferior? 

Clean House: Party Planning!

images (19)Last week I joined in the book group discussion of Cleaning House: A Mom’s 12 Month Experiment to Rid Her House of Youth Entitlement by Kay Wills Wyma. You can read those thoughts here, mostly that we are very challenged in all areas of the book! Thanks to Amy Sullivan and Steph from Only Here, Only Now  for hosting the discussion.

Task 8 for the Wyma family was Party Planning and Hospitality. I had to ask my daughter Ellie to guest post on this one!

 

2 year old Ellie: Who are we going to see today? What are we going to do? She’s always had a knack for welcoming people, planning parties, hosting special times and generally just reaching out. I see God working through her gift of hospitality.

Hospitality is a beautiful way your whole family can encourage and love others. It’s also a great way for your kids to think outside of themselves. 

 

What made you think of starting Tropical Treats?

My Grandma gave me a shaved ice machine and a palm tree. That’s why I call it tropical treats. It’ really fun to make them and for people to pick the flavor they like. I really like giving people treats.

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Tell me about using duct tape to make gifts for people. 

I have a habit of making crafts. I just starting thinking of lots of things to make for people using duct tape. I like to take someone’s personality and bring it into what I make for them. It feels good to give people things.

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What’s the hardest part about hosting parties? What’s the best part? 

The hardest part is finding activities every would like to do and not fight about, especially if there is boys and girls at the party. The best part is people’s face expressions. I like doing this stuff to see people’s faces having fun!

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How do your kids get involved in serving through hospitality?